I have spoken to a lot of new mamas out there about what happens to your sex life after having a baby. It’s a topic that is talked about in confidence to friends but rarely do you see outward confessions of zero libido or newly formed low self esteem. So let’s put some things out there.
I find it is a common myth that the libido of a pregnant woman goes up. For me and for just about every woman I know, sex drive is proportionate to your growing belly. It is hard to feel sexy when your back hurts, your stomach is huge, and you are sweaty, farting, dealing with acid reflux and unable to sleep at night. Most partners are gracious and supportive during this time, rubbing your swollen feet while you just relax. Then comes childbirth! After a vaginal delivery you are told to wait somewhere around 6 weeks until you can do the deed. For most women I know that 6 weeks is a great vacation. You don’t have to feel guilty for not wanting to have sex and your partner can’t even ask you. What happens after the 6 weeks though?
For me, not much changed. I found that the sex drive I once had is but a distant memory. These days I literally have to work to get in the mood and that kind of sucks. I think it’s normal though. With new motherhood comes new challenges like the stress of taking care of an infant and the new workout you are getting chasing a baby, money matters and work outside the home. Who has time to even think about sex? I know that at the end of the day the first thing I think about is sleep.
We all need to remember that we are sexual women. We are sexy and confident and loved by amazing partners. That is something I have been working on in my life recently. So for me, I thought about what makes me feel sexy because isn’t feeling sexy a huge step to being sexual? I feel sexy when I have on sexy lingerie, an idea my husband has yet to grasp. When I put on my nice underwear, I do it because I know there is something sexy under my clothes, which gives me a little extra boost. This does pose a problem when you are a nursing mama. Having easy access to your breasts is something that you think about every time you get dressed. I live in nursing tank tops, wearing them literally 98% of the time. They are just so simple. I have one lone nursing bra that is plain white and not at all flattering, which I will wear out once in awhile. Sexy it is not.
I thought there was no such thing as a sexy nursing bra so I was literally ecstatic to find Passion Spice. Passion Spice makes maternity and nursing wear that is super cute, sexy and functional, all the things you need as a nursing mama. Their goal is to remind mamas that they are sexy women deserving of that lovely feeling a little lingerie can give you. “Being a Mom doesn’t mean you stop being a woman” is what you will find on the home page at Passion Spice and that is so true.
I could not wait to get the Passion Spice bra and panties in the mail. I chose the Carla Orchid nursing bra and the Carlie Tap bottoms. They are lovely! Made from a soft microfiber it’s super comfortable to wear. I love the bra so much and the matching bottoms are the best. The orchid color is adorable and the fit is perfect. It really does make me feel like I am wearing a “regular” bra again. Both the bra and panties are flattering and sexy. My husband was maybe even more excited about this product then I was.
The Passion Spice bra has everything your regular bra had 3 closure back and adjustable straps but also has the little hooks that allow the bra front to come down for nursing. It’s totally easy for me to now wear a regular shirt or a dress with the Passion Spice bra underneath The Carla Bra has an underwire for support, which is what I prefer but Passion Spice offers nursing bras without wires as well. The next purchase I make from them is going to be the Macy Underwire Bra which has a middle snap that allows for nursing, which I have never seen before. In addition to the nursing selections Passion Spice also offers maternity lingerie which would have been great when I was pregnant. Lacey bras and panties that fit you’re ever growing body, yes please. Next time I am pregnant I know where to go for sexy items.
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disclaimer: I did receive a product sample free of charge, for review. I was not compensated in any way for my opinion. The opinions above are my own and based on my experience. Your opinions may vary.